M!nd_Ctrl said:
I'm glad to hear that your bro(s) is/are getting out of lock-up because that type of life sucks, but don't just blame the system. We are responsible for our own actions. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders so hopefully you'll rub off on them.
i wasnt/am not "blaming" the system for the actions fo me or my family; i blame the system for putting us in situations that encourage the acting out.
an example: the brother in reference to that comment, has a looooong history of violence, and his file said.... SPECIFICALLY..., and i know this cause i have access to it where i work-"is known to be rough around small children. do not place with small children", and what did they do? they put him in a place with small children.. now... the kid was actually a smaller version of him, so to speak. same issues, same problems, same attitude, etc. so what happens? its not like he beat the kid up, but they both play rough and the kid wound up getting hurt, and his mo- he was the biological child of the foster parent-her and the father are known to stretch the truth a bit, and i know this because i spent considerable time working with the family personaly.sooooooooo my brother got put back into the group home from there. it was his first stab at regular foster care in like 2 years, and it was gone in an instant because the dumb ass social workers lied to the agency-"didnt give all the details"- and so in the end both of these kids got screwed. and, honestly, that placement was key, because he got pissed after busting his ass for 2 years trying to get put back into regular placement and said FUCK IT. so had the idiot social workers gave the WHOLE story and gave his history accurately, he would have been placed in a more suitable home better equipped to deal with his issues ina productive way. we have 65 homes and every home has a niche.. some excel with teen girls, others do well with toddlers, certain homes do exceptional work with "problem" kids of all types, and others tend to handle simpler cases, and had the information been given properly, a LOT of things would have been different- or, at least, he would have been in an environment FAR more condusive to him making a succesful transition from group home to foster care, but instead he went back to group home, and then back to juvenile hall.
thats one instance, one story, one thing, and i can lieterally write page upon page of similar problems i had while i was in there, as well as each of their situations. i can write a book apiece just on the systems horrific mismanagement of our cases..not to mention the many more that i see pass through my office every day.
there is a reason that 2X4 was thrown- since i gave the last story, i'll keep this more to the point, but the staff at the group home admitted to elevating the situation by some questionable decisions they made during the incident, which is why the judge is releasing him back to the home. the home knows they screwed up and basically provoked him and thus kept the bed open for him to return.
the system deserves a LOT of blame for BOTH of my brothers situations. its one thing when healthy choices are made for you and you fuck it off, its another when they push your buttons, do stupid shit to make you think a situation is hopeless when it is FAR from it, and you react because in your mind you have nothing to live for and nothing to lose that hasnt been ripped from you already anyways.
i did a lot of the same shit, but i got lucky and i was a lot more street smart then they are, so i stayed out after i ran.
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Also, IMO it was pretty stupid to write "another cool thing: my [other] brother [does stupid shit too]." Come on man that's not cool. It's not cool to be locked up for any reason. You probably meant it's cool that he's getting out, but I took it a different way.[/QUOTE]
uhhhhhhhhh i think its pretty obvious what was meant by what i said. why would you take it seperately from the *obvious* context of the whole post, after reading (and posting) the whole segment? hoppa hit the nail on the head.