I'm in the opposite situation Eurydice. I mostly have girl friends, and a lot of times, some of them tried to hook up with me, and I wasn't interested. I think you have all the rights in the world to want to stay friends with someone....
But as my man Reflex said, what is the difference between a girl and a guy how are best friends for 8 years, how talk about private stuff, have a lot of stuff in common, how go out togheter (in bars)... that pretty much like a relationship to me... I mean, if you let a guy in that confort zone (letting him be so confortable with you, wheter you butt ugly or a fine dime)... if the guy likes you and is confortable with you, he'd be a pussy NOT to try to hook up with you.
To me, the fact that you said to him that you dont hook up with friends would be a reason for him to actually try to do a move... now, did you ask him if he was interested before that... I'm pretty sure you didn't because you thought he was only a friend. But, again, letting him in that "dating situation" with no clue... he's SURE to make a move.
You say you have a lot of male friends? If none of them interest you, you really should let them know GENTLY and discretly that you aren't interested. That would help you in the long run...
And finally, as someone said... why would it be OK to diss a guy who came on nice... There was no need. That's the problem with black woman nowadays. Thinking that acting like that is cool. It's not! That why so many black man go in that jungle fever. Cuz there aint no drama (or way less) with white girls. I dont wanna go to war, being slapped a couple of times because I'm trying to hook up?
I was talking about that to girls a couple of days ago. It's the guys job to sweep the girl he wants off her feet. The girls mostly just stand there waiting, even if they are interested, but if the guys dont come on nice enough, there is a good chance the girl (even if she's interested) will give him a hard time. And that's especially true if it's a black girl. Knowing that, a lot of black man dont make moves or simply try other kind of girls (non black)...
Anyways... sorry but, after reading this I had to get it out of my chest... lol